LOVEEEE!!!

This love!!! It is such a litigious and discordant thing! I mean it looks all sugary and appealing but to a large extent is abhorrent. What makes the whole concept sound foul is the truth that people expect love in return for loving a person. And love meets an end when the other person expected to love back fails to do so! A very tragic end for a powerful word called love. One can’t keep on loving others after knowing that there can possibly be no more to it than that. Expectations are normal to come into picture and it is only human to demand back love but it is somewhat depressing for me to let the fact sink in. I find it so disheartening that when you fail in love there are only two ways for you. Either be a devdas and wait endlessly for your love to come to you (which hardly happens and you end up wasting your life lamenting) or forget your past and find someone else to live with. One would ask me now that what could be any other solution to it. I know there is nothing else one could do and these are the only (if not only, the most common and known) solutions.
What I mean to convey here is that you love only when it is appreciated. Otherwise you don’t care and decide to shower the love on someone more worthy! The only condition for loving someone is that he values your love. If not, he does not deserve it. And being intelligent, pretty and lovable; all are superficial and inane concerns after that. Who would keep on loving a superstar beauty with brains if she does not even bother about it? NOBODY. Ha! People become so helpless if the person they love doesn’t even notice it. What else can they do??!!!?? Tragic, very tragic!
And for that reason, love is not as chaste as people frame it to be. You love, love for a purpose. And the purpose is to make the other person notice your love and return it to you. And things get fishy when you choose a person on his/ her abilities, talent and beauty, love them so that they can love you back!!! Of course there are many reasons for falling in love as I have mentioned in one of my previous posts that you fall in love for a reason (that is the first stage) but all become pointless in the subsequent level when you need to get back your love! If you don’t, you try looking for the same qualities in others or sometimes compromise with your demands. Hehehe…confusing concept. That is why I told in the beginning that it is such a litigious and discordant thing. If at all there could have been an option of not having to wait for receiving love in return, the root of all miseries would have vanished!
Anyways the bottom line is to appreciate the love you are given. So here, I thank everybody who loves me (god you too, I know you love me excessively). And please appreciate those who care for you because that is the only way you can be contented in your life! (or else they wont love you naaaa!!!!)
Ahh.. I got all confused when I read this in order to edit it before posting it. So I am simply posting it without debating further with myself and anyways my lethargic mind is in no mood to take any more pains.

Is it just me?

Is it just me?!?!

Or do you also remember our endless talks for many sleepless nights,
And our conversations which used to end up in silly love fights.
Do you miss the times when we held each other’s hands?
Or the sunshine when we walked on rough sands.
Have you kept the poems I had written for you,
Or cherish the memories of our relationship which we thought was everlasting and true!
Do you remember the smile on my face whenever you were around?
And when I call out to you loud, do you hear faintest of the sound?
Do you miss me when you look at the twinkling stars in the sky?
Or sometimes desperately feel to give ‘us’ another try!
Do you ever look at the photos of us together and silently smile?
Or feel incomplete without having me in your life?
Do you lose track of time while blankly staring at the wall?
Or wait for long hours near the phone, expecting my call?
Do you ever listen to the songs you had dedicated to me under the mango tree?
And does this silence pain you as much as it pains me?
Do you ever miss playing with the locks of my hair?
Do you ever get lost in the crowd, hoping to find me somewhere?
Do you ever dream to see the sunset with me again?
Or long to curl up with me whenever it rains?
Do you ever wish to hold me tight on a windy weather?
Do you also pray every second for us to be together?

Or is it just me?

umm... the four letter word!!

Ahh… Long time since I updated my blog. I still haven’t thought what to write about and don’t have much time to mull over it! Still, because my blog has not been updated since long, here is a meaningless post!!
Ohhk.. So once again I will start blabbering about my favourite topic… ahh… LOVE. Guess I simply love LOVE. Anyways, there are some things about it which annoys me a lot. Well let me begin with the most commonly linked line about love.
“When you fall in love, there is no reason behind it. You can’t help it. You don’t know why you love that person!”
Ahem ahem!!! Well!!! That is way too dramatic and illogical to me. If you fall in love so helplessly then you should be in love with half the world! If there is no reason at all for being in love with someone, then that person is no more special than the rest of the world. There was nothing that made you shortlist him/her from others and make him/her truly the one for you. And anyways, there has to be a certain criteria to love someone. You cannot simply love any stranger that comes into your view as soon as you decide to love someone. That is like excess flow of unnecessary love.
In my opinion, a mind should and has to precede over so that your heart can truly love someone. If it happens the other way round that is first you love with your heart and then analyze the negative aspects, the relationship will not be perfect, will it?
For me, my search begins (no no no, I am not desperate to search for love) with a fixed mindset of what to look for and what to be watchful about. He has to fulfil all the requirements for being my special someone and let me clear, the list is not small or simple. It is very complicated. If he is not everything I wish for, then he is like the rest of the world and not someone special.
According to me everybody falls in love for a reason. Everyone falls in love with beauty. And beauty of any kind. Some love the physical beauty(looks, hair, eyes, smile- well smile can be just more than physical attraction), some for the beauty of mind( maturity, deep thoughts, ambitions), some for beauty of character( simplicity, optimism, determination…) and some for beauty of compatibility( the comfort level, friendship they share and similarity between them)

The very next quite linked with love is that "you can fall in love only once in your life. True love happens just once!"
Again, I am sorry but I disagree. First of all, why make love sound so complicated. It is just a feeling. And just like other feelings (you can be angry on more than one person for the same reason or other reasons, be concerned about more than one person, be sad about more than one reason) why not love more than one person. Don’t make love so difficult and inflexible with superfluous rules. I mean in this hugely populated world, obviously more than one person can fulfil your criteria of special someone. And there simply cant be only one for you out there. If that would have been the case, many would have failed to find them and truly recognise them. The world would have been filled with singles and definitely not this crowded as it is now. Human species would have long been extinct! There has to be a lot of compromises everywhere. If you fail to get the first person you liked/loved, you look for other and keep looking until you find mutual love towards each other. And believe me; it is not at all difficult. It is just how much resistance you put from inside to forget the previous love. It is just a matter of accepting truth and moving forward.
Next point. People usually are very scared of expressing their feelings to the person they love. And this line is quite famous that you should never be afraid of expressing love because they might reject you and you might lose them but there is still a possibility of them loving you. And if you don’t put across your feelings you are still losing them.
Well I agree to all of it but I can still understand the tension and all the fuss about not expressing. “Having none is still a little better than losing one.” You can still love the person without having to feel guilty about it if the rejection is not made public and is known only to you. That allows you to keep loving all your crushes, though not with the same compassion as it used to be earlier. For some, the feeling might fade away and for some it will be strong. But once you have faced rejection, you are somehow forced not to love that person anymore. That is the reason why I can happily discuss all my previous crushes so easily without any guilt factor to voice me down. I am as excited talking about my first crush as I am talking about my last crush. Hehehe… this was quite pointless, but anyways, everything in my blog is meaningless.
And now something that does not annoy me. This point is just for fun! People say love makes you blind!!! Hehehe… not necessarily. Well, on the contrary love makes you notice more things about the person you wouldn’t have noticed otherwise. Being interested in that person, you also get interested in knowing what he likes, what he dislikes, what he wears, how he smiles, his features and every single unnoticeable thing also. Then in which aspect does it blind you???? Hehehe!!!

A fruitful argument!!!

Sometimes arguments make us have a better insight at our own ideas and point-of-views. Some days ago i was arguing with one of my close friends about relationships and I realized I actually had a very strong opinion about relations. I don’t want to be very opinionated or preachy so I will try to put his point of view in the best way possible.

The argument started when he said that he wants to have a girl-friend but does not want to be committed. I found it quite weird because for me going out with someone means to be committed till you get married to them. I didn’t quite understand his point and asked him to clarify. For that he said, I want to have a girl-friend for now but not surely want to get married to her. Just harmless flirting with each other for some time and then have separate ways. It was such a repelling thought for me and I quite rudely said that I don’t believe in such fake affairs. According to him, you cannot be sure that the person is ideal for you, so you shouldn’t commit so early. I definitely agree, but if you are not so sure then why be in such a relationship at all. Just distance yourself to being a friend only, why label it as she being your girl-friend? He said you cant simply wait for your ideal match to come from heavens just for you to marry him. I said he might not, but it still doesn’t mean I have to keep experimenting every single guy until I find Mr. Perfect. I don’t have to jump to actions every time I am infatuated to someone. I can wait and finally commit myself when I am absolutely sure that he is the one I want to marry. Then he asked me what if the other person you want to get married to dumps you in between? I felt that it would be an altogether different situation which I could not help for. I would not be my fault if someone plays around with me, I will not be guilty. But having such intentions beforehand from your side can never be justified. Then he further continued the argument saying that you might find somebody better than him, then you would want to leave him. In my opinion if you are deeply in love with someone, you would never even compare them with anybody else. People ofcourse might be better than him but being better does not necessarily mean they would be better in a relationship for you than him. For you, your some-one special will be perfect for you. He raised a question that what if your relationship is not perfect? Hmm… that would be very unfortunate. But no relationship is perfect. You have to work constantly to make it perfect. And unfortunate still if it doesn’t work out well, it is not the best thing that could happen to you. But even then that does not justify the need to have temporary affairs. At least you should genuinely try to be together till the end. For this, he said that I have never been in a relationship to know how it feels being dumped. My answer, I may not have been, but if at all that might have happened I would even more crave for a stable ever-lasting affair than a temporary one because then I would have been hurt enough to face the same pain again!

MY PERFECT VALENTINE DATE!!!

Hmm… It was Valentine’s Day yesterday and I saw well- dressed couples and heart-shaped balloons wherever I went. Throughout the day, couples exchanged gifts, went for dates and enjoyed each other’s company. That made me day-dream and I visualized a perfect valentine date for myself!
If you think I imagined a candle-light dinner at a beach, you are wrong. I would want my date to be rather adventurous and eventful than mushy. I would simply love to go for bungee-jumping, sky-diving, para-gliding or something of that sort, but I know that it would be far-fetched, so I settled for a simpler version of excitement.
I thought of visiting a wild-life sanctuary early in the morning, spot wild animals, have ‘bhutta’ on a tree-top, pick wild flowers and maybe ride an elephant or a camel. Afterwards, we can go and visit a cemetery because I always wanted to go there alive, hehehe( I don’t know why). People might consider it weird but doing weird stuff is fun for me. And it would be so funny to tell people later that I went to visit a cemetery on my first date. Hehehe…We can also roam in a field and eat sugarcanes.
Later, we can go to a riverside or a lake, hire a boat and then lie down on the boat, right in the middle of the river and gaze at stars with nothing to disturb the silence. After spending sometime there, we should walk back BAREFOOT and talk about random stuff on our way. For dinner, we can go to a local road-side dhaba and have palak paneer with naan.
That was all I could imagine and tried hard to include every detail that came into my mind. Still I will never be able to explain the excitement I have for this wonderful imagination.
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